I aspire to create a genuine relationship with you where you feel safe, understood and accepted. I will listen to you and accompany you every step of the way where talking about difficult issues might bring you. My main care is your well-being and to make sure that the process of looking into your feelings, thoughts and experiences, and exploring certain aspects of yourself that you might need to come to terms with, will bring you benefit.
It is important for you to know that you are in charge of this process of finding clarity, understanding and peace of mind, and are free to do this in your own way and at your own pace.
Our pain or confusion can sometimes feel more unbearable when we feel we are not understood by others or when we feel that we bother them too much with our stuff. Being 'seen' however is an important part of healing as it validates us as being a person in our own right, unique and precious.
I regard, besides your potential, your qualities and your ability for growth, your inner life as a valuable resource in the therapeutic work of finding balance and harmony in how to deal with your feelings and experiences. In this sense I keep an open mind for personal beliefs that we all deep down might have.
How it works
We will be working together for either a short-term fixed period (8-12 sessions) or longer term (indefinite), during which we will regular review your counselling process.
Short-term counselling is usually more goal-oriented and focused on a current problem that you would like to find some resolution for or have a better understanding of in order to deal with it. This can be a work-related problem, relationship issues or dealing with change.
Long-term counselling is appropriate when there is a clear wish for gaining an understanding of yourself and your circumstances that will help you move forward and heal from certain conditions or inhibitions. This is about giving yourself the space and time to reflect more deeply on yourself and your life and, through genuine introspection, to engage with the process of change itself.
Additional counselling tool
In addition to listening and hear what you are saying and through dialog working together, I can introduce the use of the visual language. As these times are very visually orientated I belief there is benefit in introducing a visual language in the therapy room as a tool and a means to relate to yourself and others. In practice it means that, with your permission and over time, I will draw or map (aspects of) what you tell me. This can help to clarify and gain insight in certain personal processes, patterns or contexts of your experiences.
This tool is optional. Details can be discussed between us if you decide you would like to meet and work with me.